Dalai Lama: Different Roads

Here’s a quote from the Dalai Lama that I think also applies to trainers and facilitators.RoadsSmall

People take different roads seeking fulfillment and happiness.
Just because they’re not on your road does not mean they are lost“.

As a trainer/facilitator I need to remind myself that my passion for Tai Chi and our AQ-KQ framework will not necessarily lead to a road for fulfillment and happiness for every participant in our workshops, even though I feel the work we do at BJ Seminars International can help guide a person in that direction.

I strongly believe in the work that we do; otherwise why would I bother ?

But that strong self belief  can develop an ego that doesn’t guide, but pressures people into fitting into a construct that doesn’t feel right. And if it doesn’t feel right, then there is little chance of sustaining a transformational change.

All I can really do is to gently lead them to the  gate and allow them to decide which road to take. I discussed this point in a recent post AI: Enter the Gate.

The signs of a trainer/facilitator ego that blocks roads include;

  • over explaining
  • over justifying

So how does a trainer/facilitator avoid the road barrier – ego?

  • Monitor your self talk
  • Get feedback from participants and/or fellow trainers/facilitators

Once the roads are clear of ego debris, the journey can really start for the participant, the trainer and the facilitator.



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