“People take different roads seeking fulfillment and happiness. Just because they’re not on your road does not mean they are lost“.
As a trainer/facilitator I need to remind myself that my passion for Tai Chi and our AQ-KQ framework will not necessarily lead to a road for fulfillment and happiness for every participant in our workshops, even though I feel the work we do at BJ Seminars International can help guide a person in that direction.
I strongly believe in the work that we do; otherwise why would I bother ?
But that strong self belief can develop an ego that doesn’t guide, but pressures people into fitting into a construct that doesn’t feel right. And if it doesn’t feel right, then there is little chance of sustaining a transformational change.
All I can really do is to gently lead them to the gate and allow them to decide which road to take. I discussed this point in a recent post AI: Enter the Gate.
The signs of a trainer/facilitator ego that blocks roads include;
- over explaining
- over justifying
So how does a trainer/facilitator avoid the road barrier – ego?
- Monitor your self talk
- Get feedback from participants and/or fellow trainers/facilitators
Once the roads are clear of ego debris, the journey can really start for the participant, the trainer and the facilitator.